Hey Queen 💖

There’s something I want you to hear today — something every survivor of narcissistic abuse needs in black and white.

You were not the problem.
Your healing made you look like the problem.

Stay with me…

A narcissist thrives on you being:

• unsure of yourself
• disconnected from your worth
• over-explaining
• self-blaming
• emotionally dependent
• easy to guilt
• willing to shrink to keep peace

That version of you was easy to control.

But the moment you started waking up —
the moment your nervous system whispered,
“I’m done living like this…”
the moment you stopped accepting crumbs —

their entire power structure cracked.

And instead of adjusting their behavior, they did what narcissists always do:

They made YOU the problem.

Here’s why:

• your boundaries exposed their manipulation
• your clarity weakened their control
• your self-trust shattered their illusion
• your “no more” forced them to face who they really are (and they can’t tolerate that)

So they labeled you:

• dramatic
• selfish
• ungrateful
• cold
• disloyal
• “not who you used to be”

But here’s the truth:

You didn’t change.
You returned to yourself.

Your healing didn’t create the chaos —
it just removed your willingness to absorb it.

If they said you were the problem,
if they punished you for growing,
if they fell apart when you got strong…

just know:

That was your confirmation, not your condemnation.

You rising exposed what was always there.

You are not the problem.
You are the light they could no longer dim. ✨

Keep shining, queen!!!
Christy

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XO,

Christy Jade

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